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1.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self.   BB To Wives, p.108  
You can see that he really does love you with his better self.


2.
View TRADITION TWELVE essay   ... self-appointed members present themselves as messiahs representing ...   12&12 Tradition Twelve, p.187  
We simply couldn't afford to take the chance of letting self-appointed members present themselves as messiahs representing A.A. before the whole public.


3.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... self-appointed, of course, because there is no ...   12&12 Tradition Two, p.133  
These are the growing group's hierarchy of service -- self-appointed, of course, because there is no other way.


4.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-appraisal.   BB Into Action, p.76  
We subjected ourselves to a drastic self-appraisal.


5.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-appraisal.   12&12 Step Ten, p.89  
The emphasis on inventory is heavy only because a great many of us have never really acquired the habit of accurate self-appraisal.


6.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-appraisal, and the admission of our defects ...   12&12 Step Five, p.59  
Hence it was most evident that a solitary self-appraisal, and the admission of our defects based upon that alone, wouldn't be nearly enough.


7.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past ...   BB Working With Others, p.94  
Outline the program of action, explaining how you made a self-appraisal, how you straightened out your past and why you are now endeavoring to be helpful to him.


8.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-appraisal insufficient.   BB Into Action, p.72  
In actual practice, we usually find a solitary self-appraisal insufficient.


9.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... self-centered and in direct conflict with the ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.124  
We think that such a view is self-centered and in direct conflict with the new way of living.


10.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-centered behavior blocked a partnership relation with ...   12&12 Step Four, p.53  
This self-centered behavior blocked a partnership relation with any one of those about us.


11.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-centered -- ego-centric, as people like to call ...   BB How It Works, p.61  
Our actor is self-centered -- ego-centric, as people like to call it nowadays.


12.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... self-centered fear -- primarily fear that we would ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.76  
The chief activator of our defects has been self-centered fear -- primarily fear that we would lose something we already possessed or would fail to get something we demanded.


13.
View STEP ONE essay   ... self-centered in the extreme, doesn't care for ...   12&12 Step One, p.24  
No, the average alcoholic, self-centered in the extreme, doesn't care for this prospect -- unless he has to do these things in order to stay alive himself.


14.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-centered person; and we were not above ...   BB To Wives, p.116  
We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with pride, self-pity, vanity and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty.


15.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-centeredness.   BB Bill's Story, p.14  
It meant destruction of self-centeredness.


16.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-centeredness!   BB How It Works, p.62  
Selfishness -- self-centeredness!


17.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... self-centeredness cannot be set in reverse all ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.73  
A whole lifetime geared to self-centeredness cannot be set in reverse all at once.


18.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
Neither could we reduce our self-centeredness much by wishing or trying on our own power.


19.
View STEP ONE essay   ... self-confidence.   12&12 Step One, p.22  
We had approached A.A. expecting to be taught self-confidence.


20.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-confidence, but it didn't fully solve the ...   BB How It Works, p.68  
Some of us once had great self-confidence, but it didn't fully solve the fear problem, or any other.


21.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... self-confidence, their reliance upon things human, their ...   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxviii  
These allergic types can never safely use alcohol in any form at all; and once having formed the habit and found they cannot break it, once having lost their self-confidence, their reliance upon things human, their problems pile up on them and become astonishingly difficult to solve.


22.
View STEP ONE essay   ... self-confidence was no good whatever; in fact, ...   12&12 Step One, p.22  
Then we had been told that so far as alcohol is concerned, self-confidence was no good whatever; in fact, it was a total liability.


23.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-confidence, we were apt to play the ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.92  
Thus blinded by prideful self-confidence, we were apt to play the big shot.


24.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... self-confident, that it would be only a ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.40  
I felt I had every right to be self-confident, that it would be only a matter of exercising my will power and keeping on guard.


25.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... self conscious and ill at ease most ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.178  
I was self conscious and ill at ease most of the time, my health was at the breaking point, and I was thoroughly miserable.


26.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-conscious or feel that you must apologize ...   BB To Wives, p.115  
You will no longer be self-conscious or feel that you must apologize as though your husband were a weak character.


27.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-consciousness will do wonders for you socially.   BB To Wives, p.115  
Your new courage, good nature and lack of self-consciousness will do wonders for you socially.


28.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-constructed prisons, the surety that we need ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.124  
Service, gladly rendered, obligations squarely met, troubles well accepted or solved with God's help, the knowledge that at home or in the world outside we are partners in a common effort, the well-understood fact that in God's sight all human beings are important, the proof that love freely given surely brings a full return, the certainty that we are no longer isolated and alone in self-constructed prisons, the surety that we need no longer be square pegs in round holes but can fit and belong in God's scheme of things -- these are the permanent and legitimate satisfactions of right living for which no amount of pomp and circumstance, no heap of material possessions, could possibly be substitutes.


29.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... self-control.   BB There Is A Solution, p.26  
He wished above all things to regain self-control.


30.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-control.   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
Disagreeable or unexpected problems are not the only ones that call for self-control.


31.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-deceived?   12&12 Step Five, p.59  
If all our lives we had more or less fooled ourselves, how could we now be so sure that we weren't still self-deceived?


32.
View STEP TWO essay   ... self-deceived, and so incapable of receiving enough ...   12&12 Step Two, p.32  
Therefore we remained self-deceived, and so incapable of receiving enough grace to restore us to sanity.


33.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... self-deception and experimentation, they will try to ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.31  
By every form of self-deception and experimentation, they will try to prove themselves exceptions to the rule, therefore nonalcoholic.


34.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-delusion had been causing us.   12&12 Step Five, pp.58-59  
As we took inventory, we began to suspect how much trouble self-delusion had been causing us.


35.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.


36.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... self-destruction.   BB We Agnostics, p.56  
Post-war disillusionment, ever more serious alcoholism, impending mental and physical collapse, brought him to the point of self-destruction.


37.
View STEP SIX essay   ... self-destruction.   12&12 Step Six, p.64  
Defying their instinctive desire for self-preservation, they seem bent upon self-destruction.


38.
View STEP SIX essay   ... self-determined objective and for the perfect objective ...   12&12 Step Six, p.68  
So the difference between "the boys and the men" is the difference between striving for a self-determined objective and for the perfect objective which is of God.


39.
View APPENDIX II, Spiritual Experience   ... self-discipline.   BB Appendix II, Spiritual Experience, p.567  
What often takes place in a few months could seldom have been accomplished by years of self-discipline.


40.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-discipline.   12&12 Step Four, p.52  
These are the sort of fundamental inquiries that can disclose the source of my discomfort and indicate whether I may be able to alter my own conduct and so adjust myself serenely to self-discipline.


41.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... self-discipline had qualified him to drink as ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.32  
Then he fell victim to a belief which practically every alcoholic has -- that his long period of sobriety and self-discipline had qualified him to drink as other men.


42.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self esteem (fear).   BB How It Works, p.65  
Mr. Brown -- his attention to my wife -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


43.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self esteem (fear).   BB How It Works, p.65  
Mr. Brown -- told my wife of my mistress -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


44.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self esteem (fear).   BB How It Works, p.65  
Mr. Brown -- Brown may get my job at the office -- security; self esteem (fear).


45.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self esteem (fear).   BB How It Works, p.65  
Mrs. Jones -- she's a nut, she snubbed me; she committed her husband for drinking; he's my friend; she's a gossip -- personal relationship; self esteem (fear).


46.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self esteem (fear); security.   BB How It Works, p.65  
My employer -- unreasonable, unjust, overbearing; threatens to fire me for drinking and padding my expense account -- self esteem (fear); security.


47.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal ...   BB How It Works, p.64  
In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened.


48.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, ...   BB How It Works, p.65  
Was it our self-esteem, our security, our ambitions, our personal, or sex relations, which had been interfered with?


49.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-evident.   BB Bill's Story, p.9  
That was two months ago and the result was self-evident.


50.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-examination are bound to make all the ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.89  
For these minutes and sometimes hours spent in self-examination are bound to make all the other hours of our day better and happier.


51.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... self-examination, meditation, and prayer.   12&12 Step Eleven, p.98  
There is a direct linkage among self-examination, meditation, and prayer.


52.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... self-forgetting.   12&12 Step Eleven, p.101  
This he would try to do by what he called self-forgetting.


53.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... "self-forgetting," and how did he propose to ...   12&12 Step Eleven, p.101  
What did he mean by "self-forgetting," and how did he propose to accomplish that?


54.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... self-forgetting that one finds.   12&12 Step Eleven, p.99  
For it is by self-forgetting that one finds.


55.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-importance.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.120  
Money was the symbol of pleasure and self-importance.


56.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-importance.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.122  
In later life he finds that real happiness is not to be found in just trying to be a number one man, or even a first-rater in the heartbreaking struggle for money, romance, or self-importance.


57.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-importance.   12&12 Step Twelve, p.124  
We no longer strive to dominate or rule those about us in order to gain self-importance.


58.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... self-imposed crisis we could not postpone or ...   BB We Agnostics, p.53  
When we became alcoholics, crushed by a self-imposed crisis we could not postpone or evade, we had to fearlessly face the proposition that either God is everything or else He is nothing.


59.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... 'self-insurance.'   BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
The A.A. plan is described by the members themselves as 'self-insurance.'


60.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... self-insurance has resulted in the restoration of ...   BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
This self-insurance has resulted in the restoration of physical, mental and spiritual health and self-respect to hundreds of men and women who would be hopelessly down and out without its unique but effective therapy."


61.
View STEP SIX essay   ... self-interest, pure and simple, that has enabled ...   12&12 Step Six, p.66  
After all, hasn't it been self-interest, pure and simple, that has enabled most of us to escape?


62.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-justification.   12&12 Step Four, pp.53-54  
Because our surface record hasn't looked too bad, we have frequently been abashed to find that this is so simply because we have buried these selfsame defects deep down in us under thick layers of self-justification.


63.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-justification, and always spurred by conscious or ...   12&12 Step Four, p.48  
For pride, leading to self-justification, and always spurred by conscious or unconscious fears, is the basic breeder of most human difficulties, the chief block to true progress.


64.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-justification during their drinking days.   12&12 Step Four, p.46  
First off, they can be told that the majority of A.A. members have suffered severely from self-justification during their drinking days.


65.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... self-justification or resentful criticism.   BB The Family Afterward, p.127  
These family talks will be constructive if they can be carried on without heated argument, self-pity, self-justification or resentful criticism.


66.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-justification was the maker of excuses; excuses, ...   12&12 Step Four, p.46  
For most of us, self-justification was the maker of excuses; excuses, of course, for drinking, and for all kinds of crazy and damaging conduct.


67.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-knowledge.   BB Bill's Story, p.7  
Surely this was the answer -- self-knowledge.


68.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... self-knowledge.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.39  
But the actual or potential alcoholic, with hardly an exception, will be absolutely unable to stop drinking on the basis of self-knowledge.


69.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   Self-knowledge would fix it.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.40  
Self-knowledge would fix it.


70.
View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter   ... self-knowledge would not help in those strange ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.42  
I saw that will power and self-knowledge would not help in those strange mental blank spots.


71.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-loathing.   12&12 Step Four, p.45  
If temperamentally we are on the depressive side, we are apt to be swamped with guilt and self-loathing.


72.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self, manifested in various ways, was what ...   BB How It Works, p.64  
Being convinced that self, manifested in various ways, was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations.


73.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-overhaul and meditation.   12&12 Step Ten, p.89  
Many of us also like the experience of an occasional retreat from the outside world where we can quiet down for an undisturbed day or so of self-overhaul and meditation.


74.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-pity.   BB Bill's Story, p.8  
No words can tell of the loneliness and despair I found in that bitter morass of self-pity.


75.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-pity?   BB How It Works, p.62  
Whatever our protestations, are not most of us concerned with ourselves, our resentments, or our self-pity?


76.
View TRADITION TWO essay   ... self-pity.   12&12 Tradition Two, p.135  
The bleeding deacon is one who is just as surely convinced that the group cannot get along without him, who constantly connives for reelection to office, and who continues to be consumed with self-pity.


77.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-pity, and depression.   12&12 Step Four, p.52  
The most common symptoms of emotional insecurity are worry, anger, self-pity, and depression.


78.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-pity, and hurt feelings, it was probable ...   12&12 Step Five, p.59  
Because we were still bothered by fear, self-pity, and hurt feelings, it was probable we couldn't appraise ourselves fairly at all.


79.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-pity and resentment.   BB Bill's Story, p.15  
I was not too well at the time, and was plagued by waves of self-pity and resentment.


80.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-pity, and unwarranted pride.   12&12 Step Four, p.47  
But in A.A. we slowly learned that something had to be done about our vengeful resentments, self-pity, and unwarranted pride.


81.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.   BB Into Action, p.86  
Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.


82.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-pity made them killjoys.   BB To Wives, p.105  
If, on the other hand, they took nothing, their self-pity made them killjoys.


83.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-pity, misunderstanding and fear.   BB To Wives, p.104  
We have had long rendezvous with hurt pride, frustration, self-pity, misunderstanding and fear.


84.
View STEP EIGHT essay   ... self-pity oozing from every pore, and inflict ...   12&12 Step Eight, p.81  
What happens when we wallow in depression, self-pity oozing from every pore, and inflict that upon those about us?


85.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-pity or delusions of personal grandeur.   12&12 Step Five, p.58  
All of us saw, for example, that we lacked honesty and tolerance, that we were beset at times by attacks of self-pity or delusions of personal grandeur.


86.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-pity, or foolish decisions.   BB Into Action, p.88  
We are then in much less danger of excitement, fear, anger, worry, self-pity, or foolish decisions.


87.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-pity, or hurt pride -- did the same ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.90  
Other kinds of disturbances -- jealousy, envy, self-pity, or hurt pride -- did the same thing.


88.
View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter   ... self-pity, self-justification or resentful criticism.   BB The Family Afterward, p.127  
These family talks will be constructive if they can be carried on without heated argument, self-pity, self-justification or resentful criticism.


89.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-pity, vanity and all the things which ...   BB To Wives, p.116  
We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with pride, self-pity, vanity and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty.


90.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-pity, we step on the toes of ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.


91.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-pity will disappear.   BB Into Action, p.84  
That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear.


92.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-pitying.   BB How It Works, p.61  
He becomes angry, indignant, self-pitying.


93.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... self-preservation, duty, and love, it is not ...   12&12 Tradition Five, p.151  
Under these compulsions of self-preservation, duty, and love, it is not strange that our Society has concluded that it has but one high mission -- to carry the A.A. message to those who don't know there's a way out.


94.
View STEP SIX essay   ... self-preservation, they seem bent upon self-destruction.   12&12 Step Six, p.64  
Defying their instinctive desire for self-preservation, they seem bent upon self-destruction.


95.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-propulsion.   BB How It Works, p.60  
Most people try to live by self-propulsion.


96.
View THE DOCTOR'S OPINION   ... self-reliance and contentment.   BB The Doctor's Opinion, p.xxxi  
From a trembling, despairing, nervous wreck, had emerged a man brimming over with self-reliance and contentment.


97.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-reliance failed us?   BB How It Works, p.68  
Wasn't it because self-reliance failed us?


98.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.72  
As long as we placed self-reliance first, a genuine reliance upon a Higher Power was out of the question.


99.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   Self-reliance was good as far as it ...   BB How It Works, p.68  
Self-reliance was good as far as it went, but it didn't go far enough.


100.
View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story   ... self-respect and the respect of my colleagues.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.180  
My health is good and I have regained my self-respect and the respect of my colleagues.


101.
View APPENDIX V, The Religious View on AA   ... self-respect to hundreds of men and women ...   BB Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A., p.572  
This self-insurance has resulted in the restoration of physical, mental and spiritual health and self-respect to hundreds of men and women who would be hopelessly down and out without its unique but effective therapy."


102.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-restraint.   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
Our first objective will be the development of self-restraint.


103.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... self-restraint.   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.181  
Considering this explosive factor, we knew we had to exercise self-restraint.


104.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-restraint has become automatic.   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
For we can neither think nor act to good purpose until the habit of self-restraint has become automatic.


105.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved, ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.91  
In all these situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved, a willingness to admit when the fault is ours, and an equal willingness to forgive when the fault is elsewhere.


106.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... self-revealing accounts in bad taste.   BB There Is A Solution, p.29  
We hope no one will consider these self-revealing accounts in bad taste.


107.
View STEP SIX essay   Self-righteous anger also can be very enjoyable.   12&12 Step Six, p.67  
Self-righteous anger also can be very enjoyable.


108.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-righteous folk?   12&12 Step Ten, p.90  
Can't we be properly angry with self-righteous folk?


109.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-righteously imposes its will upon the rest.   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Every such pressure group, if it is strong enough, self-righteously imposes its will upon the rest.


110.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-righteousness can underlie the smallest act or ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.94  
This subtle and elusive kind of self-righteousness can underlie the smallest act or thought.


111.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self-righteousness or grandiosity, our reaction will be ...   12&12 Step Four, p.45  
If, however, our natural disposition is inclined to self-righteousness or grandiosity, our reaction will be just the opposite.


112.
View STEP TWO essay   ... self-righteousness that clung to so many 'believers' ...   12&12 Step Two, p.30  
We gloated over the hypocrisy, bigotry, and crushing self-righteousness that clung to so many 'believers' even in their Sunday best.


113.
View STEP TWO essay   Self-righteousness, the very thing that we had ...   12&12 Step Two, p.30  
Self-righteousness, the very thing that we had contemptuously condemned in others, was our own besetting evil.


114.
View TRADITION TEN essay   ... self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the ...   12&12 Tradition Ten, p.176  
Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the rest of mankind some millennium of their own specification.


115.
View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter   ... self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.   BB Working With Others, p.93  
To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action.


116.
View BILL'S STORY chapter   ... self-sacrifice for others, he could not survive ...   BB Bill's Story, pp.14-15  
For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice for others, he could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead.


117.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-sacrificing.   BB How It Works, p.61  
He may be kind, considerate, patient, generous; even modest and self-sacrificing.


118.
View TO WIVES chapter   ... self-sacrificing.   BB To Wives, p.105  
We have been unselfish and self-sacrificing.


119.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... self-satisfied.   12&12 Step Seven, pp.71-72  
True, most of us thought good character was desirable, but obviously good character was something one needed to get on with the business of being self-satisfied.


120.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he ...   12&12 Step Ten, p.88  
For the wise have always known that no one can make much of his life until self-searching becomes a regular habit, until he is able to admit and accept what he finds, and until he patiently and persistently tries to correct what is wrong.


121.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... self-searching is the means by which we ...   12&12 Step Eleven, p.98  
As we have seen, self-searching is the means by which we bring new vision, action, and grace to bear upon the dark and negative side of our natures.


122.
View THERE IS A SOLUTION chapter   ... self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the ...   BB There Is A Solution, p.25  
Almost none of us liked the self-searching, the leveling of our pride, the confession of shortcomings which the process requires for its successful consummation.


123.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-seeker even when trying to be kind?   BB How It Works, p.61  
Is he not really a self-seeker even when trying to be kind?


124.
View TRADITION FIVE essay   ... self-seeking.   12&12 Tradition Five, p.151  
If a group of doctors possessed a cancer cure, they might be conscience-stricken if they failed their mission through self-seeking.


125.
View TRADITION ELEVEN essay   ... self-seeking.   12&12 Tradition Eleven, p.183  
It is more than a denial of self-seeking.


126.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-seeking and frightened?   BB How It Works, p.67  
Where had we been selfish, dishonest, self-seeking and frightened?


127.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
Driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity, we step on the toes of our fellows and they retaliate.


128.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-seeking motives.   BB Into Action, p.86  
Before we begin, we ask God to direct our thinking, especially asking that it be divorced from self-pity, dishonest or self-seeking motives.


129.
View INTO ACTION chapter   Self-seeking will slip away.   BB Into Action, p.84  
Self-seeking will slip away.


130.
View STEP ELEVEN essay   ... self-serving demand of God for replies, is ...   12&12 Step Eleven, p.103  
The A.A., or indeed any man, who tries to run his life rigidly by this kind of prayer, by this self-serving demand of God for replies, is a particularly disconcerting individual.


131.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-sufficiency.   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Should his own image in the mirror be too awful to contemplate (and it usually is), he might first take a look at the results normal people are getting from self-sufficiency.


132.
View STEP ONE essay   ... self-sufficiency and all will to resist its ...   12&12 Step One, p.21  
Alcohol, now become the rapacious creditor, bleeds us of all self-sufficiency and all will to resist its demands.


133.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-sufficiency is not paying off.   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
The philosophy of self-sufficiency is not paying off.


134.
View STEP TWO essay   ... self-sufficiency, prejudice, and defiance often prove more ...   12&12 Step Two, p.28  
The roadblocks of indifference, fancied self-sufficiency, prejudice, and defiance often prove more solid and formidable for these people than any erected by the unconvinced agnostic or even the militant atheist.


135.
View STEP SEVEN essay   ... self-sufficiency, that we began to feel humility ...   12&12 Step Seven, p.72  
It was only at the end of a long road, marked by successive defeats and humiliations, and the final crushing of our self-sufficiency, that we began to feel humility as something more than a condition of groveling despair.


136.
View STEP TWO essay   ... self-sufficiency who have cut themselves off, those ...   12&12 Step Two, p.28  
There will be those who have drifted into indifference, those filled with self-sufficiency who have cut themselves off, those who have become prejudiced against religion, and those who are downright defiant because God has failed to fulfill their demands.


137.
View WE AGNOSTICS chapter   ... self-sufficiency would solve our problems.   BB We Agnostics, p.52  
We agnostics and atheists were sticking to the idea that self-sufficiency would solve our problems.


138.
View STEP TWO essay   ... self-sufficient man or woman.   12&12 Step Two, p.29  
Now we come to another kind of problem: the intellectually self-sufficient man or woman.


139.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   Self-supporting alcoholics?   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.160  
Self-supporting alcoholics?


140.
View APPENDIX I, The A.A. Tradition   ... self-supporting, declining outside contributions.   BB Appendix I, The A.A. Tradition, p.562  
Seven -- Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions.


141.
View TRADITION SEVEN essay   ... self-supporting, declining outside contributions."   12&12 Tradition Seven, p.160  
"Every A.A. group ought to be fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions."


142.
View PREAMBLE   ... self-supporting through our own contributions.   Grapevine Preamble  
There are no dues or fees for A.A. membership; we are self-supporting through our own contributions.


143.
View STEP FIVE essay   ... self-survey.   12&12 Step Five, p.61  
The real tests of the situation are your own willingness to confide and your full confidence in the one with whom you share your first accurate self-survey.


144.
View STEP TEN essay   ... self-survey and criticism.   12&12 Step Ten, p.88  
More experienced people, of course, in all times and places have practiced unsparing self-survey and criticism.


145.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self, that I may better do Thy ...   BB How It Works, p.63  
Relieve me of the bondage of self, that I may better do Thy will.


146.
View STEP FOUR essay   ... self unconsciously blind themselves to their liabilities.   12&12 Step Four, p.46  
This is because people who are driven by pride of self unconsciously blind themselves to their liabilities.


147.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self which later placed us in a ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.


148.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-will, and are careful to make no ...   BB Into Action, p.87  
We ask especially for freedom from self-will, and are careful to make no request for ourselves only.


149.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-will, and has suffered enough under its ...   12&12 Step Three, p.37  
Each of us has had his own near-fatal encounter with the juggernaut of self-will, and has suffered enough under its weight to be willing to look for something better.


150.
View INTO ACTION chapter   ... self-will and run the show ourselves.   BB Into Action, p.76  
We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves.


151.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-will can hardly be a success.   BB How It Works, p.60  
The first requirement is that we be convinced that any life run on self-will can hardly be a success.


152.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-will, do we misuse this gift for ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.117  
So our question will be this: How, by ignorance, compulsion, and self-will, do we misuse this gift for our own destruction?


153.
View STEP TWELVE essay   ... self-will had driven everybody away and our ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.116  
But when self-will had driven everybody away and our isolation had become complete, it caused us to play the big shot in cheap barrooms and then fare forth alone on the street to depend upon the charity of passersby.


154.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-will has blocked you off from Him.   BB How It Works, p.71  
We hope you are convinced now that God can remove whatever self-will has blocked you off from Him.


155.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-will may slam it shut again, as ...   12&12 Step Three, p.35  
Though self-will may slam it shut again, as it frequently does, it will always respond the moment we again pick up the key of willingness.


156.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't ...   BB How It Works, p.62  
They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so.


157.
View STEP THREE essay   ... self-will which has always blocked the entry ...   12&12 Step Three, p.34  
Like all the remaining Steps, Step Three calls for affirmative action, for it is only by action that we can cut away the self-will which has always blocked the entry of God -- or, if you like, a Higher Power -- into our lives.


158.
View HOW IT WORKS chapter   ... self without His aid.   BB How It Works, p.62  
And there often seems no way of entirely getting rid of self without His aid.


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