HURT in Big Book Alcoholics Anonymous, 12 Steps and 12 Traditions

Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

... hurt? BB p.69, How It Works

Whom had we hurt?

... hurt. BB p.156, A Vision For You

Stepping into his car, he made the rounds of people he had hurt.

... hurt a great deal. BB p.125, The Family Afterward

A few of us have had these growing pains and they hurt a great deal.

... hurt and confused when the advice is ... 12&12 p.111, Step Twelve

Then we are hurt and confused when the advice is rejected, or when it is accepted and brings still greater confusion.

10.

... hurt and depressed. 12&12 p.134, Tradition Two

The founder and his friends are hurt and depressed.

11.

... hurt and disappointed. 12&12 p.115, Step Twelve

But when they finally resisted or ran away, we were bitterly hurt and disappointed.

12.

... hurt, and how badly? 12&12 p.50, Step Four

What people were hurt, and how badly?

13.

... hurt, and in what ways. 12&12 p.77, Step Eight

To a degree, he has already done this when taking moral inventory, but now the time has come when he ought to redouble his efforts to see how many people he has hurt, and in what ways.

14.

... hurt, and left out as they witness ... 12&12 p.120, Step Twelve

At first many of these feel lonely, hurt, and left out as they witness so much domestic happiness about them.

15.

... hurt anybody but ourselves. 12&12 p.79, Step Eight

We clung to the claim that when drinking we never hurt anybody but ourselves.

16.

... hurt by our conduct, and are willing ... BB p.70, How It Works

We have listed the people we have hurt by our conduct, and are willing to straighten out the past if we can.

17.

... hurt by people who, like us, are ... 12&12 p.92, Step Ten

It will become more and more evident as we go forward that it is pointless to become angry, or to get hurt by people who, like us, are suffering from the pains of growing up.

18.

... hurt feelings, a sense of persecution, and ... 12&12 p.53, Step Four

Then we develop hurt feelings, a sense of persecution, and a desire to retaliate.

19.

... hurt feelings and resentments. BB p.117, To Wives

Some of the snags you will encounter are irritation, hurt feelings and resentments.

20.

... hurt feelings is a wonderful thing. BB p.116, To Wives

When we do that, we find it solves our problems too; the ensuing lack of fear, worry and hurt feelings is a wonderful thing.

21.

... hurt feelings, it was probable we couldn't ... 12&12 p.59, Step Five

Because we were still bothered by fear, self-pity, and hurt feelings, it was probable we couldn't appraise ourselves fairly at all.

22.

... hurt him a bit, even though he ... BB p.144, To Employers

That won't hurt him a bit, even though he does not go for this remedy.

23.

... hurt me on a full stomach. BB p.36, More About Alcoholism

"Suddenly the thought crossed my mind that if I were to put an ounce of whiskey in my milk it couldn't hurt me on a full stomach.

24.

... hurt or threatened. BB p.65, How It Works

In most cases it was found that our self-esteem, our pocketbooks, our ambitions, our personal relationships (including sex) were hurt or threatened.

25.

... hurt or toward whom I felt resentment. BB p.13, Bill's Story

We made a list of people I had hurt or toward whom I felt resentment.

26.

... hurt pride could be rewon. BB p.125, The Family Afterward

Husbands and wives have sometimes been obliged to separate for a time until new perspective, new victory over hurt pride could be rewon.

27.

... hurt pride -- did the same thing. 12&12 p.90, Step Ten

Other kinds of disturbances -- jealousy, envy, self-pity, or hurt pride -- did the same thing.

28.

... hurt pride, frustration, self-pity, misunderstanding and fear. BB p.104, To Wives

We have had long rendezvous with hurt pride, frustration, self-pity, misunderstanding and fear.

29.

... hurt pride might be the smoke screen ... 12&12 p.59, Step Five

Or anger and hurt pride might be the smoke screen under which we were hiding some of our defects while we blamed others for them.

30.

... hurt some more. BB p.95, Working With Others

This he may do after he gets hurt some more.

31.

... hurt them and make them unhappy. BB p.74, Into Action

It may be one of our own family, but we cannot disclose anything to our wives or our parents which will hurt them and make them unhappy.

32.

... hurt those we love because they need ... 12&12 p.94, Step Ten

We sometimes hurt those we love because they need to be "taught a lesson," when we really want to punish.

33.

... hurt us and others, then the need ... 12&12 p.55, Step Five

If we have swept the searchlight of Step Four back and forth over our careers, and it has revealed in stark relief those experiences we'd rather not remember, if we have come to know how wrong thinking and action have hurt us and others, then the need to quit living by ourselves with those tormenting ghosts of yesterday gets more urgent than ever.

34.

... hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we ... BB p.62, How It Works

Sometimes they hurt us, seemingly without provocation, but we invariably find that at some time in the past we have made decisions based on self which later placed us in a position to be hurt.

35.

... hurt, we may feel diffident about going ... BB p.76, Into Action

As we look over the list of business acquaintances and friends we have hurt, we may feel diffident about going to some of them on a spiritual basis.

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