From the books ... Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book) and Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)
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... husband.
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
We cannot, for example, unload a detailed account of extramarital adventuring upon the shoulders of our unsuspecting wife or
husband.
2.
... husband.
BB p.81,
Into Action
3.
... husband.
BB p.108,
To Wives
These are some of the questions which race through the mind of every woman who has an alcoholic
husband.
4.
... husband.
BB p.111,
To Wives
5.
... husband.
BB p.115,
To Wives
6.
... husband.
BB p.117,
To Wives
7.
... husband.
BB p.119,
To Wives
8.
... husband.
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
(*) Written in 1939, when
there were few women in A.A., this chapter assumes that the alcoholic in the home is likely to be the husband.
9.
... husband already.
BB p.158,
A Vision For You
His wife came, scarcely daring to be hopeful, though she thought she saw something different
about her husband already.
10.
... husband are
working together toward an undreamed-of ...
BB p.119,
To Wives
After all, your family is
reunited, alcohol is no longer a problem and you and your husband are working together toward an undreamed-of future.
11.
... husband as
the radically changed attitude toward ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
We urge you to try our program, for nothing will be so helpful to your
husband as the radically
changed attitude toward him which God will show you how to have.
12.
... husband at
length, you can quietly let ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
While you need not discuss your husband at length, you can quietly let your friends know the nature of his illness.
13.
... husband becomes
a sick and irresponsible child ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
As matters get worse, the husband becomes a sick and irresponsible child who
needs to be looked after and extricated from
endless scrapes and impasses.
14.
... husband becomes
unbearable and you have to ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
Even though your husband becomes unbearable and you have to leave him temporarily,
you should, if you can, go without rancor.
15.
... husband begins
to feel lonely, sorry for ...
BB p.81,
Into Action
16.
... husband can
get right down to fundamentals.
BB p.120,
To Wives
17.
... husband's chance
of recovery.
BB p.120,
To Wives
18.
... husband's company
insurance was still in force.
BB p.137,
To Employers
19.
... husband continues
to drink.
BB p.111,
To Wives
20.
... husband's drinking
is not going to spoil ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
Be determined that your husband's drinking is not going to spoil your relations with your children or your friends.
21.
... husband's employer
and his friends that he ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
Frequently, you have felt obliged to tell your husband's employer and his friends
that he was sick, when as a matter of fact he was tight.
22.
... husband explain.
BB p.115,
To Wives
23.
... husband find
a solution for the pressing ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
If you and your husband find a
solution for the pressing problem of drink you are, of course, going to be very happy.
24.
... husband fits
the description of number two.
BB p.112,
To Wives
25.
... husband for
drinking; he's my friend; she's ...
BB p.65,
How It Works
Mrs. Jones -- she's a nut, she snubbed me; she committed her husband for drinking; he's my friend;
she's a gossip -- personal relationship; self esteem (fear).
26.
... husband has
been living in that strange ...
BB p.108,
To Wives
Perhaps your husband has
been living in that strange world of alcoholism where everything is distorted and exaggerated.
27.
... husband has
gone much further than husband ...
BB p.109,
To Wives
28.
... husband have
been living too much alone, ...
BB p.119,
To Wives
It is probably true that
you and your husband have been living too much alone, for drinking many times isolates the wife of an alcoholic.
29.
... husband he
wants to stop drinking forever.
BB p.116,
To Wives
30.
... husband if
you possibly can.
BB p.117,
To Wives
31.
... husband's interest,
it may be best to ...
BB p.112,
To Wives
If this kind of approach
does not catch your husband's
interest, it may be best
to drop the subject, but after a friendly talk your husband will usually revive the topic himself.
32.
... husband into
debt by irresponsibility, waste, and ...
12&12 p.51,
Step Four
She can juggle charge accounts, manipulate
the food budget, spend her afternoons gambling, and run her husband into debt by irresponsibility, waste, and extravagance.
33.
... husband is
a drinker, you probably worry ...
BB p.114,
To Wives
If your husband is a drinker, you probably worry over what other people are thinking and you hate to meet your friends.
34.
... husband is
bad, you become a trembling ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
When your husband is bad, you
become a trembling recluse, wishing the telephone had never been invented.
35.
... husband is
otherwise a normal individual, your ...
BB p.113,
To Wives
36.
... husband is
showing lack of control, for ...
BB p.109,
To Wives
Two: Your husband is showing lack of control, for he is unable to
stay on the water wagon even when he wants to.
37.
... husband is
trying to live on a ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
If your husband is trying to
live on a spiritual basis, he will also be doing everything in his power to
avoid disagreement or
contention.
38.
... husband joins
A.A., the wife may become ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
After the husband joins A.A., the wife may become discontented, even highly resentful that Alcoholics Anonymous
has done the very thing that all her years of devotion had failed to do.
39.
... husband knows
he owes you more than ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
40.
... husband's liquor
problem or He has not.
BB p.120,
To Wives
41.
... husband may
be only a heavy drinker.
BB p.108,
To Wives
42.
... husband may
be willing to talk to ...
BB p.112,
To Wives
43.
... husband may
become so wrapped up in ...
12&12 p.118,
Step Twelve
Her husband may become so wrapped up in A.A. and his new friends that he is inconsiderately away
from home more than when he drank.
44.
... husband may
come to appreciate your reasonableness ...
BB p.111,
To Wives
45.
... husband may
stop or moderate.
BB p.112,
To Wives
46.
... husband no
matter what he says or ...
BB p.108,
To Wives
47.
... husband number
one.
BB p.110,
To Wives
48.
... husband number
one should be practiced.
BB p.112,
To Wives
49.
... husband number
two.
BB p.109,
To Wives
50.
... husband of
whom you completely despair.
BB p.110,
To Wives
51.
... husband, ought
to think of what you ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
You, as well as your husband,
ought to think of what you
can put into life instead of how much you can take out.
52.
... husband's parents
for desertion.
BB p.106,
To Wives
53.
... husband read
this book.
BB p.114,
To Wives
54.
... husband to
distant places on the theory ...
BB p.101,
Working With Others
Ask any woman who has sent her husband to distant places on the theory he would
escape the alcohol problem.
55.
... husband were
a weak character.
BB p.115,
To Wives
You will no longer be self-conscious or feel that you
must apologize as though your husband were a weak character.
56.
... husband whenever
there is an honest difference ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
We do not mean that you have to agree with your husband whenever there is an honest
difference of opinion.
57.
... husband who
is at large, but who ...
BB p.114,
To Wives
58.
... husband who
is recovering.
BB p.122,
The Family Afterward
59.
... husband will
be put to the test.
BB p.117,
To Wives
60.
... husband will
be the first to say ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
Your husband will be the first to say it was your devotion and care which brought him to the point
where he could have a spiritual experience.
61.
... husband will
find that you can dispose ...
BB p.118,
To Wives
You and your husband will find that you can dispose of
serious problems easier than you can the trivial ones.
62.
... husband will
lose his position; you are ...
BB p.116,
To Wives
You may be afraid your husband will lose his position; you are thinking of the disgrace
and hard times which will befall you and the children.
63.
... husband will
make a fair start on ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
Perhaps your husband will make a fair start on the new basis, but just as things are going beautifully he dismays you by coming home drunk.
64.
... husband will
see at once that he ...
BB p.120,
To Wives
Your husband will see at once that he must redouble his spiritual activities
if he expects to survive.
65.
... husband will
sometimes be unreasonable and you ...
BB p.117,
To Wives
66.
... husband will
usually revive the topic himself.
BB p.112,
To Wives
If this kind of approach
does not catch your husband's
interest, it may be best
to drop the subject, but after a friendly talk your husband will usually revive the topic himself.
67.
... husband, you
may be in luck.
BB p.113,
To Wives
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