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... person.
12&12 p.56,
Step Five
Psychiatrists and psychologists point out the deep need every human being has for practical insight and knowledge of his own personality flaws and for
a discussion of them with an understanding and trustworthy person.
2.
... person.
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
3.
... person.
BB p.72,
Into Action
4.
... person.
BB p.74,
Into Action
5.
... person.
BB p.74,
Into Action
6.
... person.
BB p.81,
Into Action
7.
... person.
BB p.90,
Working With Others
8.
... person.
BB p.108,
To Wives
9.
... person.
BB xiii,
Foreword to First Edition
10.
... person alone,
he may soon become convinced ...
BB p.96,
Working With Others
11.
... person and
should be treated accordingly.
BB p.100,
Working With Others
12.
... person; and
we were not above selfishness ...
BB p.116,
To Wives
We wives found that, like everybody else, we were afflicted with
pride, self-pity, vanity and all the things which go to make up the self-centered person; and we were not above selfishness or dishonesty.
13.
... person at
once?
BB p.86,
Into Action
14.
... person available.
BB p.74,
Into Action
Notwithstanding the great necessity for discussing ourselves
with someone, it may be one
is so situated that there is no suitable person available.
15.
... person, but
we are sure we would ...
BB p.78,
Into Action
We have already admitted this in confidence to another
person, but we are sure we
would be imprisoned or lose our job if it were known.
16.
... person can
experience an entire psychic change ...
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
This is repeated over and
over, and unless this person can experience an entire psychic change there is very little hope of his recovery.
17.
... person can
quit upon a nonspiritual basis ...
BB p.34,
More About Alcoholism
Whether such a person can quit upon a nonspiritual basis depends upon the extent to which he has
already lost the power to choose whether he will drink or not.
18.
... person capable
of enough willingness and honesty ...
12&12 p.63,
Step Six
He goes on to explain that
any person capable of enough willingness and honesty
to try repeatedly Step Six on all his faults -- without any reservations whatever -- has indeed come a long way spiritually, and is therefore entitled to be
called a man who is sincerely trying to grow in the image and likeness of his own Creator.
19.
... person concerned,
and lay our cards on ...
12&12 p.85,
Step Nine
But if no such opportunity presents
itself, at some point we will want to summon all our courage, head straight for the person concerned, and lay our cards on the table.
20.
... person concerned
not being present, we thought ...
12&12 p.94,
Step Ten
Or, the person concerned
not being present, we thought we were helping others to understand him,
when in actuality our true motive was to feel superior by pulling him down.
21.
... person continue
to turn his will and ...
12&12 p.39,
Step Three
So how, exactly, can the willing person continue to turn his will and his life over to the Higher Power?
22.
... person could
never be the same again.
12&12 p.23,
Step One
It was then discovered that when one alcoholic had planted in the mind of another the true nature of his malady, that
person could never be the same again.
23.
... person could
surely not be called a ...
12&12 p.168,
Tradition Eight
Then we saw that if a hardworking secretary
answered the phone dozens of times a day, listened to twenty wailing wives, arranged hospitalization and got
sponsorship for ten newcomers, and was gently
diplomatic with the irate drunk who complained about the job she
was doing and how she was overpaid, then such a person could surely not be called a professional
A.A.
24.
... person's expense.
BB p.74,
Into Action
25.
... person facts
about ourselves which no others ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
Perhaps we shall need to share with this person facts about ourselves which no others ought to know.
26.
... person fail
who has thoroughly followed our ...
BB p.58,
How It Works
27.
... person for
a whole day, or maybe ...
12&12 p.91,
Step Ten
One unkind tirade or one willful snap judgment can ruin our relation with another
person for a whole day, or maybe a whole year.
28.
... person for
guidance and protection.
12&12 p.43,
Step Four
How frequently we see a
frightened human being determined to depend completely upon a stronger person for guidance and protection.
29.
... person for
whom we pray.
12&12 p.104,
Step Eleven
Such prayers, of course, are fundamentally good acts, but often they are based upon a supposition that we know
God's will for the person for whom we pray.
30.
... person has
cancer all are sorry for ...
BB p.18,
There Is A Solution
31.
... person, I
have profound respect for the ...
BB p.43,
More About Alcoholism
Though not a religious
person, I have profound respect for the spiritual
approach in such cases as yours.
32.
... person, I
might have followed in their ...
BB p.137,
To Employers
33.
... person imposes
his instincts unreasonably upon others, ...
12&12 p.44,
Step Four
34.
... person in
his line of business.
BB p.156,
A Vision For You
He trembled as he went
about, for this might mean ruin, particularly to a
person in his line of business.
35.
... person in
whom we are to confide.
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
36.
... person involved
entirely.
BB p.67,
How It Works
Though a situation had
not been entirely our fault, we tried to disregard the other person involved entirely.
37.
... person is
in danger.
BB p.109,
To Wives
38.
... person is
like an actor who wants ...
BB p.60,
How It Works
Each person is like an actor who wants to run the whole show; is forever trying to arrange the lights, the ballet, the scenery and the
rest of the players in his
own way.
39.
... person is,
of course, very ancient.
12&12 p.56,
Step Five
40.
... person is
that we can get his ...
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
The benefit of talking
to another person is that
we can get his direct comment and counsel on our
situation, and there can be no doubt in our minds what that advice is.
41.
... person, it
confirms that we have been ...
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
When we are honest with another person, it confirms that we have been honest with ourselves and
with God.
42.
... person, it
frequently takes great resolution to ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
43.
... person likes
to think he is bodily ...
BB p.30,
More About Alcoholism
44.
... person may
turn out to be one's ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
45.
... person most
interested in him -- usually his ...
BB p.90,
Working With Others
If there is any indication that he wants
to stop, have a good talk with the person most interested in him -- usually his wife.
46.
... person offended
we said to ourselves, "This ...
BB p.67,
How It Works
47.
... person or
argue.
BB p.77,
Into Action
48.
... person or
persons with whom to take ...
BB p.74,
Into Action
Rightly and naturally,
we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step.
49.
... person, our
emotions go on the defensive.
12&12 p.78,
Step Eight
The moment we ponder a twisted or broken relationship with another person, our emotions go on the defensive.
50.
... person, place,
thing or situation as being ...
BB p.417(449),
Acceptance
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some
fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
51.
... person, place,
thing or situation -- some fact ...
BB p.417(449),
Acceptance
When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation -- some
fact of my life -- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment.
52.
... person places
sex desire ahead of everything ...
12&12 p.43,
Step Four
53.
... person quick
to see and understand our ...
BB p.74,
Into Action
54.
... person should
head the job?
12&12 p.157,
Tradition Six
55.
... person sobered
up, and after doing all ...
12&12 p.111,
Step Twelve
For example, we may set our
hearts on getting a particular person sobered up, and after doing all we can for months, we see him relapse.
56.
... person, such
as our wife, best friend, ...
BB p.63,
How It Works
We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend, or spiritual adviser.
57.
... person unless
we are sure he would ...
BB p.125,
The Family Afterward
Another principle we
observe carefully is
that we do not relate intimate experiences
of another person unless we are sure he would approve.
58.
... person upon
whom she can vent jealousy.
BB p.82,
Into Action
59.
... person wants,
for example, to eat, to ...
12&12 p.64,
Step Six
Every normal person wants, for example, to eat, to reproduce, to be somebody in the society of
his fellows.
60.
... person we
dislike, we take the bit ...
BB p.77,
Into Action
61.
... person when
we see good reasons why ...
BB p.72,
Into Action
We will be more reconciled to discussing ourselves
with another person when we
see good reasons why we should do so.
62.
... person who
has had experience with an ...
BB p.101,
Working With Others
To a person who has had experience with an alcoholic, this may seem like tempting Providence, but it isn't.
63.
... person who
has recovered.
BB p.90,
Working With Others
64.
... person who
lives with a woman alcoholic ...
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
But many of the suggestions given here may be adapted to help the person who lives with a woman alcoholic -- whether she
is still drinking or is
recovering in A.A.
65.
... person who
seemed doomed, who had so ...
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
On the other hand -- and strange as this may seem to those who do not understand -- once a psychic change has occurred, the very same person who seemed doomed, who had so many problems he despaired of ever solving them, suddenly finds himself easily able to control his desire for alcohol, the only effort necessary being that required to follow a few simple rules.
66.
... person who
wants to eat in a ...
BB p.102,
Working With Others
67.
... person whose
support can be obtained.
12&12 p.181,
Tradition Eleven
A worthy charity wants to raise money; forthwith, its letterhead shows the name of every distinguished
person whose support can be obtained.
68.
... person with
God on his side.
BB p.129,
The Family Afterward
Dad may feel that for years his drinking has placed him on the wrong side of every argument, but that now he has
become a superior person with God on his side.
69.
... person, with
this qualification -- being perhaps fatally ...
BB p.142,
To Employers
Say that you believe he is a
gravely ill person, with this qualification -- being
perhaps fatally ill, does he want to get well?
70.
... person, you
had better use everyday language ...
BB p.93,
Working With Others
When dealing with such a
person, you had better use everyday language to describe spiritual principles.
71.
... person, you
will have created a new ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
When you have carefully explained to such people that he is a sick person, you will have created a new atmosphere.
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