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Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)
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1.
... person.
12&12 p.56,
Step Five
2.
... person.
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
Somehow, being alone with
God doesn't
seem as
embarrassing as
facing up to another
person.
3.
... person.
BB p.72,
Into Action
This is perhaps
difficult --
especially discussing
our
defects with another
person.
4.
... person.
BB p.74,
Into Action
Perhaps our
doctor or
psychologist will be the
person.
5.
... person.
BB p.74,
Into Action
We say this because we are very
anxious that we
talk to the
right person.
6.
... person.
BB p.81,
Into Action
We
feel we ought to say to her that we have no
right to
involve another
person.
7.
... person.
BB p.90,
Working With Others
They should be
patient,
realizing they are
dealing with a
sick person.
8.
... person.
BB p.108,
To Wives
He is just another very
sick,
unreasonable person.
9.
... person.
BB xiii,
Foreword to First Edition
Many do not
comprehend that the
alcoholic is a very
sick
person.
10.
... person alone,
he may soon become convinced ...
BB p.96,
Working With Others
If you
leave such a
person
alone, he may soon
become convinced that he cannot
recover by himself.
11.
... person and
should be treated accordingly.
BB p.100,
Working With Others
But
urge upon a
man's
family that he has been a very
sick person and should be
treated accordingly.
12.
... person; and
we were not above selfishness ...
BB p.116,
To Wives
We
wives found that, like
everybody else, we were
afflicted with
pride,
self-
pity,
vanity and all the things which go to make up the
self-
centered person; and we were not above
selfishness or
dishonesty.
13.
... person at
once?
BB p.86,
Into Action
Have we
kept something to ourselves which should be
discussed with another
person at once?
14.
... person available.
BB p.74,
Into Action
Notwithstanding the
great necessity for
discussing ourselves with someone, it may be one
is so
situated that there is no
suitable person available.
15.
... person, but
we are sure we would ...
BB p.78,
Into Action
We have already
admitted this in
confidence to another
person, but we are
sure we would be
imprisoned or
lose our
job if it were
known.
16.
... person can
experience an entire psychic change ...
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
This is
repeated over and over, and
unless this
person can
experience an
entire psychic change there is very
little hope of his
recovery.
17.
... person can
quit upon a nonspiritual basis ...
BB p.34,
More About Alcoholism
Whether such a
person can
quit
upon a
nonspiritual basis depends upon the
extent to which he has already
lost the
power to
choose whether he will
drink
or not.
18.
... person capable
of enough willingness and honesty ...
12&12 p.63,
Step Six
He
goes on to
explain that
any
person capable of
enough willingness and
honesty to
try repeatedly Step Six on all his
faults -- without
any
reservations whatever -- has
indeed come a
long way
spiritually, and
is therefore
entitled to be called a
man who is
sincerely trying to
grow in the
image and
likeness of his
own Creator.
19.
... person concerned,
and lay our cards on ...
12&12 p.85,
Step Nine
But if no such
opportunity presents itself, at some
point we will
want to
summon all our
courage,
head straight for the
person concerned, and
lay our
cards on the
table.
20.
... person concerned
not being present, we thought ...
12&12 p.94,
Step Ten
Or, the
person concerned
not being
present, we
thought we were
helping
others to
understand him, when in
actuality our
true motive was to
feel superior by
pulling him
down.
21.
... person continue
to turn his will and ...
12&12 p.39,
Step Three
So how,
exactly, can the
willing person continue to
turn his will and
his
life over to the
Higher
Power?
22.
... person could
never be the same again.
12&12 p.23,
Step One
It was then
discovered that when one
alcoholic had
planted in
the
mind of another the
true
nature of his
malady, that
person could
never be the
same again.
23.
... person could
surely not be called a ...
12&12 p.168,
Tradition Eight
24.
... person's expense.
BB p.74,
Into Action
We have no
right to
save our
own skin at another
person's
expense.
25.
... person facts
about ourselves which no others ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
Perhaps we shall
need to
share with this
person facts about ourselves which no others ought to
know.
26.
... person fail
who has thoroughly followed our ...
BB p.58,
How It Works
Rarely have we seen a
person
fail who has
thoroughly
followed our
path.
27.
... person for
a whole day, or maybe ...
12&12 p.91,
Step Ten
One
unkind tirade or one
willful snap judgment can
ruin our
relation with another
person
for a
whole day, or maybe a
whole year.
28.
... person for
guidance and protection.
12&12 p.43,
Step Four
29.
... person for
whom we pray.
12&12 p.104,
Step Eleven
Such
prayers, of
course,
are
fundamentally good acts, but often they are
based upon a
supposition
that we
know God's will for the
person for whom we
pray.
30.
... person has
cancer all are sorry for ...
BB p.18,
There Is A Solution
If a
person has
cancer all
are
sorry for him and no one is
angry or
hurt.
31.
... person, I
have profound respect for the ...
BB p.43,
More About Alcoholism
Though not a
religious person, I have
profound respect for the
spiritual
approach in such
cases as
yours.
32.
... person, I
might have followed in their ...
BB p.137,
To Employers
And but for the
intervention of an
understanding person, I
might have
followed in their
footsteps.
33.
... person imposes
his instincts unreasonably upon others, ...
12&12 p.44,
Step Four
34.
... person in
his line of business.
BB p.156,
A Vision For You
He
trembled as he went about, for this might
mean ruin,
particularly to a
person
in his
line of
business.
35.
... person in
whom we are to confide.
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
Our
next problem will be to
discover the
person in
whom we are to
confide.
36.
... person involved
entirely.
BB p.67,
How It Works
Though a
situation had not been
entirely our
fault, we
tried to
disregard the
other
person involved entirely.
37.
... person is
in danger.
BB p.109,
To Wives
We
think this
person is in
danger.
38.
... person is
like an actor who wants ...
BB p.60,
How It Works
Each
person is like an
actor
who
wants to
run the
whole show; is
forever trying to
arrange the
lights, the
ballet, the
scenery and the
rest of the
players in his
own way.
39.
... person is,
of course, very ancient.
12&12 p.56,
Step Five
This
practice of
admitting one's
defects
to another
person is, of
course, very
ancient.
40.
... person is
that we can get his ...
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
The
benefit of
talking
to another
person is that we can get his
direct comment and
counsel on our
situation,
and there can be no
doubt in our
minds what that
advice is.
41.
... person, it
confirms that we have been ...
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
When we are
honest with another
person, it
confirms that we have
been
honest with ourselves and with
God.
42.
... person, it
frequently takes great resolution to ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
Even when you've
found the
person, it
frequently takes great resolution to
approach
him or her.
43.
... person likes
to think he is bodily ...
BB p.30,
More About Alcoholism
44.
... person may
turn out to be one's ...
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
This
person may
turn out to be
one's
sponsor, but not
necessarily so.
45.
... person most
interested in him -- usually his ...
BB p.90,
Working With Others
If there is any
indication that he
wants to
stop, have a
good talk with the
person most
interested in him
-- usually his
wife.
46.
... person offended
we said to ourselves, "This ...
BB p.67,
How It Works
When a
person offended we
said to ourselves, "This is a
sick man.
47.
... person or
argue.
BB p.77,
Into Action
Under no
condition do we
criticize such a
person or
argue.
48.
... person or
persons with whom to take ...
BB p.74,
Into Action
Rightly and
naturally,
we
think well before we
choose the
person or
persons with whom to take this
intimate and
confidential step.
49.
... person, our
emotions go on the defensive.
12&12 p.78,
Step Eight
The
moment we
ponder a
twisted or
broken relationship with another
person, our
emotions go on the
defensive.
50.
... person, place,
thing or situation as being ...
BB p.417(449),
Acceptance
When I am
disturbed, it is because I find some
person, place, thing or
situation -- some
fact of my
life --
unacceptable
to me, and I can find no
serenity until I
accept that
person, place,
thing or
situation as being
exactly the way it is
supposed to be at this
moment.
51.
... person, place,
thing or situation -- some fact ...
BB p.417(449),
Acceptance
When I am
disturbed, it is because I find some
person, place, thing or
situation -- some
fact of my
life --
unacceptable
to me, and I can find no
serenity until I
accept that
person, place,
thing or
situation as being
exactly the way it is
supposed to be at this
moment.
52.
... person places
sex desire ahead of everything ...
12&12 p.43,
Step Four
53.
... person quick
to see and understand our ...
BB p.74,
Into Action
We often find such a
person quick to see and
understand our
problem.
54.
... person should
head the job?
12&12 p.157,
Tradition Six
But what
kind of
person should
head the
job?
55.
... person sobered
up, and after doing all ...
12&12 p.111,
Step Twelve
For
example, we may
set our
hearts on
getting a
particular person sobered up, and after doing all we can for
months, we see him
relapse.
56.
... person, such
as our wife, best friend, ...
BB p.63,
How It Works
57.
... person unless
we are sure he would ...
BB p.125,
The Family Afterward
Another
principle we
observe carefully is that
we do not
relate intimate experiences
of another
person unless we
are
sure he would
approve.
58.
... person upon
whom she can vent jealousy.
BB p.82,
Into Action
It is
better, however, that one does not
needlessly name a
person upon whom she can
vent jealousy.
59.
... person wants,
for example, to eat, to ...
12&12 p.64,
Step Six
Every
normal person wants, for
example, to
eat, to
reproduce, to be
somebody in the
society of his
fellows.
60.
... person we
dislike, we take the bit ...
BB p.77,
Into Action
Nevertheless, with a
person we
dislike, we take the
bit in our
teeth.
61.
... person when
we see good reasons why ...
BB p.72,
Into Action
We will be more
reconciled to
discussing ourselves with another
person when we see
good reasons why we should do so.
62.
... person who
has had experience with an ...
BB p.101,
Working With Others
To a
person who has had
experience with an
alcoholic, this may
seem
like
tempting Providence, but it isn't.
63.
... person who
has recovered.
BB p.90,
Working With Others
If he says yes, then his
attention should be
drawn to you as a
person who has
recovered.
64.
... person who
lives with a woman alcoholic ...
BB p.104,
To Wives (Note)
But many of the
suggestions given here may be
adapted to
help the
person who
lives with a
woman alcoholic -- whether she is still
drinking or is
recovering in
A.A.
65.
... person who
seemed doomed, who had so ...
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
On the other
hand -- and
strange as this may
seem to
those who do not
understand -- once a
psychic change has
occurred, the very same
person who
seemed doomed, who had so many
problems he
despaired of
ever
solving them,
suddenly finds himself
easily able to
control his
desire for
alcohol, the
only
effort necessary
being that
required to
follow a few
simple rules.
66.
... person who
wants to eat in a ...
BB p.102,
Working With Others
If you are with a
person who
wants to
eat in a
bar, by all
means go along.
67.
... person whose
support can be obtained.
12&12 p.181,
Tradition Eleven
68.
... person with
God on his side.
BB p.129,
The Family Afterward
Dad may
feel that for
years his
drinking has
placed him on the
wrong side of every
argument, but
that now he has
become a
superior person with
God on his
side.
69.
... person, with
this qualification -- being perhaps fatally ...
BB p.142,
To Employers
Say that you
believe he is a
gravely ill person, with this
qualification -- being perhaps
fatally ill, does he
want to get well?
70.
... person, you
had better use everyday language ...
BB p.93,
Working With Others
71.
... person, you
will have created a new ...
BB p.115,
To Wives
When you have
carefully explained to such people that he is a
sick person, you will have
created a new
atmosphere.
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