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1.
... wife.   BB Bill's Story, p.2   View BILL'S STORY chapter
Though my drinking was not yet continuous, it disturbed my wife.


2.
... wife.   BB Bill's Story, p.8   View BILL'S STORY chapter
I thought of my poor wife.


3.
... wife.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.41   View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter
I have a shadowy recollection of being in an airplane bound for New York, and of finding a friendly taxicab driver at the landing field instead of my wife.


4.
... wife.   BB How It Works, p.67   View HOW IT WORKS chapter
Notice that the word "fear" is bracketed alongside the difficulties with Mr. Brown, Mrs. Jones, the employer, and the wife.


5.
... wife.   BB Into Action, p.79   View INTO ACTION chapter
Because of resentment and drinking, he had not paid alimony to his first wife.


6.
... wife.   BB Working With Others, p.90   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
If there is any indication that he wants to stop, have a good talk with the person most interested in him -- usually his wife.


7.
... wife.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
So I filled the cellar full, with the permission of my good wife.


8.
... wife a promise that we would not ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.179   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
Wishing to be polite, though I felt very badly, I said, "Let's make the call," and extracted from my wife a promise that we would not stay over fifteen minutes.


9.
... wife admitting his faults and asking forgiveness.   BB Into Action, p.79   View INTO ACTION chapter
We suggested he write his first wife admitting his faults and asking forgiveness.


10.
... wife and family.   BB More About Alcoholism, p.35   View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter
This man has a charming wife and family.


11.
... wife and father-in-law became ill.   BB Bill's Story, p.5   View BILL'S STORY chapter
The house was taken over by the mortgage holder, my mother-in-law died, my wife and father-in-law became ill.


12.
... wife and I abandoned ourselves with enthusiasm ...   BB Bill's Story, p.15   View BILL'S STORY chapter
My wife and I abandoned ourselves with enthusiasm to the idea of helping other alcoholics to a solution of their problems.


13.
... wife and I decided to go anyway.   BB Bill's Story, p.2   View BILL'S STORY chapter
I failed to persuade my broker friends to send me out looking over factories and managements, but my wife and I decided to go anyway.


14.
... wife and I saved $1,000.   BB Bill's Story, p.2   View BILL'S STORY chapter
Living modestly, my wife and I saved $1,000.


15.
... wife and I sought escape.   BB Bill's Story, p.6   View BILL'S STORY chapter
There were flights from city to country and back, as my wife and I sought escape.


16.
... wife and I went to see Wallace ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
This worked nicely until my wife and I went to see Wallace Beery in "Tugboat Annie," after which the pant-leg and stocking racket were out!


17.
... wife and partner he came to the ...   BB Into Action, p.80   View INTO ACTION chapter
After consulting with his wife and partner he came to the conclusion that it was better to take those risks than to stand before his Creator guilty of such ruinous slander.


18.
... wife as for the husband.   BB Into Action, p.81   View INTO ACTION chapter
It is as good for the wife as for the husband.


19.
... wife became deeply interested, and it was ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.178   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
My wife became deeply interested, and it was her interest that sustained mine, though I at no time sensed that it might be an answer to my liquor problem.


20.
... wife began to work in a department ...   BB Bill's Story, p.4   View BILL'S STORY chapter
My wife began to work in a department store, coming home exhausted to find me drunk.


21.
... wife, best friend, or spiritual adviser.   BB How It Works, p.63   View HOW IT WORKS chapter
We found it very desirable to take this spiritual step with an understanding person, such as our wife, best friend, or spiritual adviser.


22.
... wife came, scarcely daring to be hopeful, ...   BB A Vision For You, p.158   View A VISION FOR YOU chapter
His wife came, scarcely daring to be hopeful, though she thought she saw something different about her husband already.


23.
... wife commenced to admonish him about it.   BB The Family Afterward, p.135   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
Seeing this, and meaning to be helpful, his wife commenced to admonish him about it.


24.
... wife dared not invite people in for ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
We could not be invited out because I would surely get tight, and my wife dared not invite people in for the same reason.


25.
... wife does not know, should we tell ...   BB Into Action, p.81   View INTO ACTION chapter
If we are sure our wife does not know, should we tell her?


26.
... wife gets a divorce and he is ...   BB More About Alcoholism, p.38   View MORE ABOUT ALCOHOLISM chapter
Finally, he can no longer work, his wife gets a divorce and he is held up to ridicule.


27.
... wife gets worn out, resentful and uncommunicative.   BB Into Action, p.81   View INTO ACTION chapter
After a few years with an alcoholic, a wife gets worn out, resentful and uncommunicative.


28.
... wife happily observed that this time I ...   BB Bill's Story, p.5   View BILL'S STORY chapter
Before then, I had written lots of sweet promises, but my wife happily observed that this time I meant business.


29.
... wife has endured, and now fully understanding ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.119   View STEP TWELVE essay
The alcoholic, realizing what his wife has endured, and now fully understanding how much he himself did to damage her and his children, nearly always takes up his marriage responsibilities with a willingness to repair what he can and to accept what he can't.


30.
... wife has visited this house to find ...   BB A Vision For You, p.160   View A VISION FOR YOU chapter
Many a distracted wife has visited this house to find loving and understanding companionship among women who knew her problem, to hear from the lips of their husbands what had happened to them, to be advised how her own wayward mate might be hospitalized and approached when next he stumbled.


31.
... wife have had love affairs.   BB The Family Afterward, p.124   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
For example, we know of situations in which the alcoholic or his wife have had love affairs.


32.
... wife, he remarked, "Don't see anything the ...   BB Into Action, p.82   View INTO ACTION chapter
To his wife, he remarked, "Don't see anything the matter here, Ma.


33.
... wife, helped at times by extreme drunkenness, ...   BB Bill's Story, p.3   View BILL'S STORY chapter
There had been no real infidelity, for loyalty to my wife, helped at times by extreme drunkenness, kept me out of those scrapes.


34.
... wife, his children, his "in-laws", each one ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.122   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
The alcoholic, his wife, his children, his "in-laws", each one is likely to have fixed ideas about the family's attitude towards himself or herself.


35.
... wife, his partner, and his alcoholism by ...   12&12 Tradition Five, p.152   View TRADITION FIVE essay
He interrupted to scoff at this and asserted he'd fix his wife, his partner, and his alcoholism by himself.


36.
... wife's hope.   BB Bill's Story, p.5   View BILL'S STORY chapter
Nevertheless, I still thought I could control the situation, and there were periods of sobriety which renewed my wife's hope.


37.
... wife ill, children distracted, bills in arrears ...   BB A Vision For You, p.155   View A VISION FOR YOU chapter
It was the usual situation: home in jeopardy, wife ill, children distracted, bills in arrears and standing damaged.


38.
... wife inspected it frequently.   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.176   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
I found out later that my wife inspected it frequently.


39.
... wife is forced to become the mother ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.118   View STEP TWELVE essay
Very gradually, and usually without any realization of the fact, the wife is forced to become the mother of an erring boy.


40.
... wife is one of those persons who ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.135   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
His wife is one of those persons who really feels there is something rather sinful about these commodities, so she nagged, and her intolerance finally threw him into a fit of anger.


41.
... wife kept her faith and courage during ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.178   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
How my wife kept her faith and courage during all those years, I'll never know, but she did.


42.
... wife may become discontented, even highly resentful ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.118   View STEP TWELVE essay
After the husband joins A.A., the wife may become discontented, even highly resentful that Alcoholics Anonymous has done the very thing that all her years of devotion had failed to do.


43.
... wife may sometimes say she is neglected.   BB Working With Others, p.97   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
Your wife may sometimes say she is neglected.


44.
... wife may take with the husband who ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.122   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
Our women folk have suggested certain attitudes a wife may take with the husband who is recovering.


45.
... wife -- misunderstands and nags; likes Brown; wants ...   BB How It Works, p.65   View HOW IT WORKS chapter
My wife -- misunderstands and nags; likes Brown; wants the house put in her name -- pride; personal sex relations; security (fear).


46.
... wife must become the head of the ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.118   View STEP TWELVE essay
If the man is affected, the wife must become the head of the house, often the breadwinner.


47.
... wife, my friends, and my children that ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.177   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
I used to promise my wife, my friends, and my children that I would drink no more -- promises which seldom kept me sober even through the day, though I was very sincere when I made them.


48.
... wife next calls saying he is sick, ...   BB To Employers, p.146   View TO EMPLOYERS chapter
When his wife next calls saying he is sick, you might jump to the conclusion he is drunk.


49.
... wife nor anyone else stands in judgment.   BB The Family Afterward, p.135   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
Though he is now a most effective member of Alcoholics Anonymous, he still smokes and drinks coffee, but neither his wife nor anyone else stands in judgment.


50.
... wife of an alcoholic.   BB To Wives, p.119   View TO WIVES chapter
It is probably true that you and your husband have been living too much alone, for drinking many times isolates the wife of an alcoholic.


51.
... wife of another serious drinker.   BB To Wives, p.112   View TO WIVES chapter
Meanwhile you might try to help the wife of another serious drinker.


52.
... wife of my mistress -- sex relations; self ...   BB How It Works, p.65   View HOW IT WORKS chapter
Mr. Brown -- told my wife of my mistress -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


53.
... wife one Saturday afternoon saying she wanted ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.179   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
About this time a lady called up my wife one Saturday afternoon saying she wanted me to come over that evening to meet a friend of hers who might help me.


54.
... wife or child neurotic.   BB The Family Afterward, p.122   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
A doctor said to us, "Years of living with an alcoholic is almost sure to make any wife or child neurotic.


55.
... wife, or his friends.   BB Working With Others, p.95   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
He should not be pushed or prodded by you, his wife, or his friends.


56.
... wife or husband.   12&12 Step Nine, p.86   View STEP NINE essay
We cannot, for example, unload a detailed account of extramarital adventuring upon the shoulders of our unsuspecting wife or husband.


57.
... wife or no wife -- we simply do ...   BB Working With Others, p.98   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.


58.
... wife or parents whom for years he ...   BB Into Action, p.82   View INTO ACTION chapter
But he is yet a long way from making good to the wife or parents whom for years he has so shockingly treated.


59.
... wife's parents.   BB Bill's Story, p.4   View BILL'S STORY chapter
We went to live with my wife's parents.


60.
... wife placed their large home at the ...   BB A Vision For You, p.160   View A VISION FOR YOU chapter
One man and his wife placed their large home at the disposal of this strangely assorted crowd.


61.
... wife settled your difficulties is worth any ...   BB Working With Others, p.100   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
The story of how you and your wife settled your difficulties is worth any amount of criticism.


62.
... wife -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).   BB How It Works, p.65   View HOW IT WORKS chapter
Mr. Brown -- his attention to my wife -- sex relations; self esteem (fear).


63.
... wife should fully understand his new way ...   BB Working With Others, p.99   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
The wife should fully understand his new way of life.


64.
... wife's slender purse when the morning terror ...   BB Bill's Story, p.6   View BILL'S STORY chapter
Sometimes I stole from my wife's slender purse when the morning terror and madness were on me.


65.
... wife to applaud while I started out ...   BB Bill's Story, p.3   View BILL'S STORY chapter
We went at once to the country, my wife to applaud while I started out to overtake Walter Hagen.


66.
... wife usually goes on doing the best ...   12&12 Step Twelve, p.118   View STEP TWELVE essay
The wife usually goes on doing the best she knows how, but meanwhile the alcoholic alternately loves and hates her maternal care.


67.
... wife was at work.   BB Bill's Story, p.8   View BILL'S STORY chapter
My wife was at work.


68.
... wife was informed that it would all ...   BB Bill's Story, p.7   View BILL'S STORY chapter
My weary and despairing wife was informed that it would all end with heart failure during delirium tremens, or I would develop a wet brain, perhaps within a year.


69.
... wife was planning to go out in ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.176   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
If my wife was planning to go out in the afternoon, I would get a large supply of liquor and smuggle it home and hide it in the coal bin, the clothes chute, over door jambs, over beams in the cellar, and in cracks in the cellar tile.


70.
... wife -- we simply do not stop drinking ...   BB Working With Others, p.98   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
Some of us have taken very hard knocks to learn this truth: Job or no job -- wife or no wife -- we simply do not stop drinking so long as we place dependence upon other people ahead of dependence on God.


71.
... wife who adopts a sane spiritual program, ...   BB The Family Afterward, p.130   View THE FAMILY AFTERWARD chapter
Nothing will help the man who is off on a spiritual tangent so much as the wife who adopts a sane spiritual program, making a better practical use of it.


72.
... wife, who sent my newly made friend ...   BB Doctor Bob's Nightmare, p.179   View DOCTOR BOB'S NIGHTMARE story
These good people notified my wife, who sent my newly made friend over to get me.


73.
... wife who trembles in fear of the ...   BB To Wives, p.104   View TO WIVES chapter
But for every man who drinks others are involved -- the wife who trembles in fear of the next debauch; the mother and father who see their son wasting away.


74.
... wife will never come back for one ...   BB Working With Others, p.99   View WORKING WITH OTHERS chapter
In some cases the wife will never come back for one reason or another.


75.
... wife would leave elated by the thought ...   BB A Vision For You, p.161   View A VISION FOR YOU chapter
He and his wife would leave elated by the thought of what they could now do for some stricken acquaintance and his family.


76.
... wife would leave him alone, he'd soon ...   12&12 Tradition Five, p.152   View TRADITION FIVE essay
He shouts that if his partner would treat him better, and his wife would leave him alone, he'd soon solve his alcohol problem.


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