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... others.
12&12 p.29,
Step Two
We used our education to
blow ourselves up into prideful balloons, though we were careful to hide this from
others.
2.
... others.
12&12 p.47,
Step Four
We had to see that when we harbored grudges and planned revenge for such defeats, we were really beating ourselves with the club of
anger we had intended to
use on others.
3.
... others.
12&12 p.78,
Step Eight
Moreover, it is usually
a fact that our behavior
when drinking has aggravated the defects
of others.
4.
... others.
12&12 p.80,
Step Eight
5.
... others.
12&12 p.81,
Step Eight
6.
... others.
12&12 p.82,
Step Eight
Whenever our pencil falters, we can fortify and
cheer ourselves by remembering what A.A. experience in this Step has
meant to others.
7.
... others."
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others."
8.
... others.
12&12 p.84,
Step Nine
While we may be quite willing to reveal the very worst, we must be sure to remember that we cannot buy
our own peace of mind at the expense of others.
9.
... others.
12&12 p.106,
Step Twelve
10.
... others.
12&12 p.116,
Step Twelve
11.
... others.
12&12 p.17,
Foreword
With the publication of the book "Alcoholics Anonymous" in 1939, the pioneering period ended and a prodigious chain reaction set in as the recovered alcoholics carried their
message to still others.
12.
... others.
12&12 p.174,
Tradition Nine
13.
... others.
BB p.13,
Bill's Story
14.
... others.
BB p.14,
Bill's Story
15.
... others.
BB p.20,
There Is A Solution
Most of us sense that real tolerance of other people's shortcomings
and viewpoints and a respect for their opinions
are attitudes which make
us more useful to others.
16.
... others.
BB p.59,
How It Works
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others.
17.
... others.
BB p.70,
How It Works
18.
... others.
BB p.74,
Into Action
19.
... others.
BB p.82,
Into Action
20.
... others.
BB p.84,
Into Action
21.
... others.
BB p.86,
Into Action
But we must be careful not
to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness
to others.
22.
... others.
BB p.120,
To Wives
23.
... others.
BB p.123,
The Family Afterward
Suppose we tell you some of
the obstacles a family
will meet; suppose we suggest how they
may be avoided -- even converted to good use for others.
24.
... others.
BB p.124,
The Family Afterward
Cling to the thought that,
in God's hands, the dark past is the greatest possession you
have -- the key to life and happiness for others.
25.
... others.
BB p.132,
The Family Afterward
26.
... others.
BB p.159,
A Vision For You
27.
... others.
BB p.164,
A Vision For You
See to it that your relationship with Him is right, and great events will come to pass for you and countless others.
28.
... others.
BB p.572(574),
Appendix V, The Religious View on A.A.
The Episcopal magazine, The Living Church, observes editorially: "The basis
of the technique of Alcoholics Anonymous
is the truly Christian
principle that a man
cannot help himself except by helping others.
29.
... others.
BB xxv(xxiii),
The Doctor's Opinion
As part of his rehabilitation he commenced to present his
conceptions to other
alcoholics, impressing upon them that
they must do likewise with
still others.
30.
... others, a
fourth turned up.
BB p.158,
A Vision For You
31.
... others' alcoholic
troubles.
BB p.125,
The Family Afterward
32.
... others and
how we may help meet ...
BB p.20,
There Is A Solution
Our very lives, as ex-problem drinkers, depend upon our constant thought of others and how we
may help meet their needs.
33.
... others, and
in abiding faith they knew ...
12&12 p.131,
Tradition One
Each needed to consider the others, and in
abiding faith they knew they must find their real strength.
34.
... others, and
in confidence laid the explosive ...
12&12 p.142,
Tradition Three
35.
... others and
ourselves.
12&12 p.43,
Step Four
36.
... others, and
the necessity of belief in ...
BB xvi,
Foreword to Second Edition
Though he could not accept
all the tenets of the Oxford Groups, he was convinced of the need for moral inventory, confession of personality defects, restitution to those harmed, helpfulness to
others, and the necessity
of belief in and dependence upon God.
37.
... others and
toward God.
12&12 p.76,
Step Seven
The Seventh Step is where
we make the change in our attitude which permits us,
with humility as our guide, to move out from ourselves toward others and toward God.
38.
... others, and
upon God.
12&12 p.76,
Step Seven
We now clearly see that we have been making unreasonable demands
upon ourselves, upon others, and upon God.
39.
... others, and
we had come to believe ...
BB p.25,
There Is A Solution
But we saw that it really worked in others, and we had come to believe in the hopelessness and futility of life as we had
been living it.
40.
... others and
who will be glad to ...
BB p.90,
Working With Others
You should be described to him as one of a fellowship who, as
part of their own recovery, try to help others and who will be glad to talk to him if he cares to see you.
41.
... others appear
to have recovered.
BB xxv(xxiii),
The Doctor's Opinion
42.
... others are
in the greatest need.
12&12 p.102,
Step Eleven
Having opened our channel
as best we can, we try to ask for those right things of which we and
others are in the greatest
need.
43.
... others are
involved -- the wife who trembles ...
BB p.104,
To Wives
But for every man who drinks others are involved -- the wife who trembles in fear of the next debauch; the mother and father who see their son wasting away.
44.
... others are
loose.
BB p.70,
How It Works
45.
... others are
part of the cause, what ...
12&12 p.52,
Step Four
46.
... others as
he had worked with me.
BB p.14,
Bill's Story
47.
... others as
I would have them do ...
12&12 p.93,
Step Ten
48.
... others as
well as for ourselves.
12&12 p.104,
Step Eleven
It is A.A.'s experience
that particularly in these cases we ought to pray that God's will, whatever it is, be done for others as well as for ourselves.
49.
... others, asked
God to help and the ...
BB p.80,
Into Action
If we have obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink.
50.
... others at
the same time, is the ...
12&12 p.87,
Step Nine
For the readiness to take
the full consequences
of our past acts, and to take responsibility for
the well-being of others at the same time, is the very spirit of Step Nine.
51.
... others, but
only slowly in ourselves.
12&12 p.47,
Step Four
52.
Others came
near putting Galileo to death ...
BB p.51,
We Agnostics
53.
... others can't,
and still others who do ...
12&12 p.25,
Step Two
Some of us won't believe in God, others can't, and still others who do believe that God exists have no faith whatever He will perform this miracle.
54.
... others "Catholic"
or "Protestant."
12&12 p.147,
Tradition Four
There would be real danger
should we commence to call
some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."
55.
... others close
to alcoholics.
BB p.121,
To Wives (Note)
Though it is entirely separate from Alcoholics Anonymous,
it uses the general principles of the A.A. program as a guide for husbands, wives, relatives, friends and
others close to alcoholics.
56.
... others concede
to him, the more resentful ...
BB p.122,
The Family Afterward
We find the more one member of the family demands that the
others concede to him, the
more resentful they become.
57.
... others could
be cured maybe with a ...
12&12 p.148,
Tradition Four
58.
... others "dry,"
still others "Republican" or "Communist," ...
12&12 p.147,
Tradition Four
There would be real danger
should we commence to call
some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."
59.
... others entered
the field of alcohol education.
12&12 p.167,
Tradition Eight
Even greater furors were provoked when
A.A. members began to run rest homes and farms for alcoholics, when
some hired out to corporations as personnel men in charge of the alcoholic problem in industry, when
some became nurses on alcoholic wards, when others entered the field of alcohol education.
60.
... others fail.
BB p.89,
Working With Others
61.
... others failed
to recognize my truly exceptional ...
12&12 p.51,
Step Four
62.
... others, fancied
or real, had power to ...
BB p.66,
How It Works
63.
... others favorably,
but criticism or ridicule coming ...
BB p.125,
The Family Afterward
A man may criticize or laugh at himself and it will affect others favorably, but criticism or ridicule coming from another often produces the contrary effect.
64.
Others fell
apart because of sheer self-righteousness ...
12&12 p.176,
Tradition Ten
Others fell apart because of sheer self-righteousness while trying to enforce upon the rest of mankind some millennium
of their own specification.
65.
... others find
we are soon overcome by ...
BB p.132,
The Family Afterward
But those of us who have tried to shoulder the entire burden and trouble of others find we are soon overcome by them.
66.
... others for
them.
12&12 p.59,
Step Five
Or anger and hurt pride might be the smoke screen under which we were hiding some of our defects
while we blamed others for them.
67.
... others from
the stream of misery which ...
BB p.163,
A Vision For You
Arrangements were also
made with the chief psychiatrist of a large
public hospital to select still others from the stream of misery which flows through that institution.
68.
... others had.
12&12 p.137,
Tradition Two
69.
... others had
done or said?"
BB p.180,
Doctor Bob's Nightmare
The question which might naturally come into your mind would be: "what did the man
do or say that was different from what others
had done or said?"
70.
... others had
done, we resolutely looked for ...
BB p.67,
How It Works
71.
... others has
not been great, the emotional ...
12&12 p.79,
Step Eight
In many instances we shall find that though the harm done others has not been great, the emotional harm we have done ourselves has.
72.
... others, have
one symptom in common: they ...
BB xxx(xxviii),
The Doctor's Opinion
All these, and many others,
have one symptom in common: they cannot start drinking without developing the phenomenon of craving.
73.
... others, he
could not survive the certain ...
BB p.15,
Bill's Story
For if an alcoholic failed to perfect and enlarge his spiritual life through work and self-sacrifice for others, he
could not survive the certain trials and low spots ahead.
74.
... others he
later helped?"
12&12 p.145,
Tradition Three
75.
... others, he
lays a basis for helpful ...
BB p.127,
The Family Afterward
As each member of a resentful family begins to see his shortcomings and admits
them to the others, he lays a
basis for helpful discussion.
76.
... others heavier.
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
77.
Others hurried
to place themselves before microphones ...
12&12 p.185,
Tradition Twelve
78.
... others in
which by the very nature ...
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
There will be other cases where action ought to be deferred, and still others in which by the very nature of the situation we shall never be able to make direct personal contact at all.
79.
... others involved.
12&12 p.82,
Step Eight
80.
... others is
our code.
BB p.84,
Into Action
81.
... others is
paramount, it is equally necessary ...
12&12 p.80,
Step Eight
While the purpose of making restitution to
others is paramount, it
is equally necessary
that we extricate from an examination of our personal relations every bit of information about ourselves and our fundamental difficulties that we can.
82.
... others is
the foundation stone of your ...
BB p.97,
Working With Others
83.
... others it
may not.
BB p.144,
To Employers
84.
... others it
seemed impossibly bad.
12&12 p.30,
Step Two
85.
... others like
us is the one aim ...
12&12 p.151,
Tradition Five
This is our gift from God, and
its bestowal upon others like us is the one aim that today animates A.A.'s all around the globe.
86.
... others may
be by no means infallible, ...
12&12 p.60,
Step Five
While the comment or advice of others may be by no means infallible, it is likely
to be far more specific than any direct guidance we may receive while we are still so inexperienced
in establishing contact with a Power greater than ourselves.
87.
... others may
survive and rediscover life.
BB p.153,
A Vision For You
88.
... others' minds
for them.
BB p.132,
The Family Afterward
89.
... others more
harm than good.
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
There will be those to whom
we can make only partial restitution, lest complete disclosures
do them or others more harm than good.
90.
... others must
be convinced of his new ...
BB p.135,
The Family Afterward
91.
... others, no
matter how deeply we felt ...
12&12 p.58,
Step Five
Often it was while working on this Step with our
sponsors or spiritual
advisers that we first felt truly able to forgive others, no matter how deeply we felt they had wronged us.
92.
... others not
only of their worldly goods, ...
12&12 p.80,
Step Eight
If we lie or cheat, we deprive others not only of
their worldly goods, but
of their emotional security and peace of mind.
93.
... others, of
what we could pack into ...
BB p.86,
Into Action
94.
... others or
by any calamity not of ...
12&12 p.116,
Step Twelve
These were the new attitudes that finally brought many of us an inner strength and peace that could not be deeply
shaken by the shortcomings of others or
by any calamity not of our
own making.
95.
... others, or
we were apt to be ...
12&12 p.57,
Step Five
Either we were shy, and dared not draw near others, or we were apt to be noisy good fellows craving attention and companionship, but never getting it -- at least to our way of thinking.
96.
... others ought
to know.
12&12 p.61,
Step Five
Perhaps we shall need to share with this person facts about ourselves which no others ought to know.
97.
... others "Republican"
or "Communist," and yet others ...
12&12 p.147,
Tradition Four
There would be real danger
should we commence to call
some groups "wet," others "dry," still others "Republican" or "Communist," and yet others "Catholic" or "Protestant."
98.
... others seem
to be realized while ours ...
12&12 p.49,
Step Four
Unreasonable fear that
our instincts will not be
satisfied drives us to
covet the possessions
of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are
threatened, to be envious when the ambitions of others seem to be realized while ours are not.
99.
... others seldom
can.
12&12 p.150,
Tradition Five
Just as firmly bound by obligation are
the members of Alcoholics Anonymous,
who have demonstrated that they can help problem drinkers as others seldom can.
100.
... others showed
us that "God-sufficiency" worked with ...
BB p.52,
We Agnostics
When others showed us that
"God-sufficiency" worked with them, we began to
feel like those who had insisted the
Wrights would never fly.
101.
... others slip
when the family came back ...
BB p.100,
Working With Others
102.
... others, so
never hesitate to go anywhere ...
BB p.102,
Working With Others
Your job now is to be at the place where you may be of maximum helpfulness to
others, so never hesitate to go anywhere if you can be helpful.
103.
... others solve
their problems by a simple ...
BB p.52,
We Agnostics
When we saw others solve their problems by a simple reliance upon the Spirit of the Universe, we had to stop doubting the power of God.
104.
... others started
in the club, pitched a ...
12&12 p.148,
Tradition Four
Some would start at the top
and come through to the bottom, becoming club members; others started in the club, pitched a binge, were hospitalized, then graduated to education
on the third floor.
105.
... others taking
with impunity.
BB xxix(xxvii),
The Doctor's Opinion
They are restless, irritable and discontented, unless
they can again experience the sense of ease and comfort which comes at once by taking a few drinks -- drinks which they
see others taking with impunity.
106.
... others; that
it reach all important decisions ...
BB p.575,
Appendix VII, Twelve Concepts (Short Form)
XII. The Conference shall observe the spirit of A.A. tradition, taking care that it never becomes the seat of perilous wealth or power; that sufficient operating funds and reserve be its prudent financial principle; that it place none of its members in a position of
unqualified authority over others; that it reach all important decisions by
discussion, vote, and,
whenever possible, by
substantial unanimity; that its actions never be personally punitive nor an incitement to public controversy; that
it never perform acts of government, and
that, like the Society it
serves, it will always remain democratic in thought
and action.
107.
... others --
the kind that make daily living ...
12&12 p.81,
Step Eight
Such a roster of harms done others -- the kind that make daily living with us as practicing alcoholics
difficult and often unbearable -- could be extended almost indefinitely.
108.
... others, the
things which matter so much ...
BB p.161,
A Vision For You
Being wrecked in the same vessel, being restored and united under one God, with hearts and minds attuned to the welfare of
others, the things which matter so much to some people no longer signify much to them.
109.
... others, the
word "God" brought up a ...
BB p.45,
We Agnostics
To others, the word "God" brought up a particular idea of Him with which someone
had tried to impress them
during childhood.
110.
... others, then
the need to quit living ...
12&12 p.55,
Step Five
If we have swept the searchlight of Step Four back and forth over our careers, and it has revealed in stark relief those experiences we'd rather
not remember, if we have come to know how wrong thinking and action have hurt us and others, then the need to quit living by ourselves with those tormenting ghosts of yesterday gets more urgent than ever.
111.
... others to
face life again, there will ...
BB p.164,
A Vision For You
When a few men in this city have found themselves, and have discovered the joy of helping others to face life again, there will be no stopping until everyone in that town has had his opportunity to recover
-- if he can and will.
112.
... others to
health.
BB p.153,
A Vision For You
In the chapter "Working
With Others" you gathered
an idea of how we approach
and aid others to health.
113.
... others to
join us?
12&12 p.182,
Tradition Eleven
Provided they were willing -- and many were -- why shouldn't their membership be publicized, thereby encouraging others to join us?
114.
... others, to
lust for sex and power, ...
12&12 p.49,
Step Four
Unreasonable fear that
our instincts will not be
satisfied drives us to
covet the possessions
of others, to lust for sex and power, to become angry when our instinctive demands are
threatened, to be envious when the ambitions of others seem to be realized while ours are not.
115.
... others to
our own willful desires, they ...
12&12 p.53,
Step Four
When we habitually try to
manipulate others to our
own willful desires, they revolt, and resist us heavily.
116.
... others to
recover from alcoholism.
Grapevine,
Preamble
Alcoholics Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength
and hope with each other that they may solve their
common problem and help others to recover from alcoholism.
117.
... others to
save himself from the alcoholic ...
BB p.79,
Into Action
Therefore, we are not to be the hasty and foolish martyr who would needlessly sacrifice
others to save himself from the alcoholic pit.
118.
... others to
understand him, when in actuality ...
12&12 p.94,
Step Ten
Or, the person concerned not being present, we thought we were
helping others to understand him, when in actuality our true motive was to feel superior by pulling him down.
119.
... others, to
watch loneliness vanish, to see ...
BB p.89,
Working With Others
To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends -- this is an experience you must not miss.
120.
... others, unhappiness
follows.
12&12 p.44,
Step Four
121.
... others, was
our own besetting evil.
12&12 p.30,
Step Two
Self-righteousness,
the very thing that we had contemptuously condemned in others, was our
own besetting evil.
122.
... others, we
are quite sure to drink.
BB p.70,
How It Works
123.
... others, "We
are right and you are ...
12&12 p.37,
Step Three
124.
... others, we
can now commence to ransack ...
12&12 p.81,
Step Eight
Having carefully surveyed this whole area of human relations, and having decided exactly what personality traits in us
injured and disturbed
others, we can now commence to ransack memory for the people to whom
we have given offense.
125.
... others, we
often discover a greater challenge ...
12&12 p.114,
Step Twelve
But also like others, we often discover a greater challenge in the lesser
and more continuous problems of life.
126.
... others were
wrong was as far as ...
BB p.66,
How It Works
127.
... others what
they had found, or be ...
BB p.158,
A Vision For You
So, you see, there were three
alcoholics in that town,
who now felt they had to give to others what they had found, or be sunk.
128.
... others which
are just as disturbing to ...
12&12 p.73,
Step Seven
And we cling with a passionate persistence to others
which are just as disturbing to our equilibrium, because we
still enjoy them too much.
129.
... others which
cannot be met without perverting ...
12&12 p.49,
Step Four
Pride lures us into making demands upon ourselves or upon others which cannot be met without perverting or misusing
our God-given instincts.
130.
... others who
became our able and persistent ...
BB xx,
Foreword to Second Edition
Another reason for the wide acceptance of A.A. was the ministration
of friends -- friends in
medicine, religion,
and the press, together
with innumerable others
who became our able and persistent advocates.
131.
... others who
do believe that God exists ...
12&12 p.25,
Step Two
Some of us won't believe in God, others can't, and still others who do believe that God exists have no faith whatever He will perform this miracle.
132.
... others who
encounter heavy financial reverses.
12&12 p.114,
Step Twelve
Though the earning power of most A.A.'s is relatively high, we have
some members who never seem to get on their feet moneywise, and still others who encounter heavy financial reverses.
133.
... others who
had tried to help him ...
12&12 p.186,
Tradition Twelve
He also wanted to tell others who had tried to help him -- his doctor, his minister, and
close friends.
134.
... others, who
have since recovered, of their ...
BB p.96,
Working With Others
He often says that if he had
continued to work on
them, he might have deprived many others, who have since recovered, of their chance.
135.
... others who
still suffered the same fears ...
12&12 p.122,
Step Twelve
When, with God's help, we calmly accepted our lot, then we found we could live at peace with ourselves and show others who still suffered the same fears that they could get over them, too.
136.
... others who
suffer how we were given ...
BB p.124,
The Family Afterward
Showing others who suffer how we were given help is the very thing which makes life seem so worth while to us now.
137.
... others who
want and need it badly.
BB p.180,
Doctor Bob's Nightmare
138.
... others who
were still happily unaware of ...
12&12 p.79,
Step Eight
139.
... others, why
do I lack the ability ...
12&12 p.52,
Step Four
Or, if my disturbance was seemingly caused by the behavior of others, why do I lack the ability to accept conditions I cannot change?
140.
... others will
be helped.
BB p.87,
Into Action
141.
... others will
call it an index of ...
12&12 p.48,
Step Four
142.
... others will
relapse periodically until they really ...
12&12 p.56,
Step Five
Some people are unable to
stay sober at all; others will relapse periodically
until they really clean house.
143.
... others will
think of this list as ...
12&12 p.48,
Step Four
144.
... others with
similar problems ... In this atmosphere ...
BB p.570(572),
Appendix III, The Medical View on A.A.
They help others with similar problems ... In
this atmosphere the alcoholic often overcomes his excessive
concentration upon himself.
145.
... others --
women and men -- they can devote ...
12&12 p.120,
Step Twelve
In partnership with others -- women and men -- they can devote themselves to any number of ideas, people, and constructive projects.
146.
... others would
surely destroy us.
12&12 p.140,
Tradition Three
147.
... Others" you
gathered an idea of how ...
BB p.153,
A Vision For You
In the chapter "Working
With Others" you gathered
an idea of how we approach
and aid others to health.
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