From the books ... Alcoholics Anonymous (Big Book) and Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions (12 & 12)
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... amends.
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
That will arise in the occasional situation
where to make a full revelation would seriously harm the one to whom we are making amends.
2.
... amends.
BB p.8,
Bill's Story
3.
... amends.
BB p.76,
Into Action
4.
... amends as
fast and as far as ...
12&12 p.87,
Step Nine
But all of them do require a complete willingness
to make amends as fast and as far as may be possible in a given set of conditions.
5.
... amends at
this level should always be ...
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
We needn't wallow in excessive remorse before those we have harmed, but amends at this level should always be forthright and generous.
6.
... amends divides
those we should approach into ...
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
After we have made the list of people we have harmed, have reflected carefully upon each instance, and have tried to possess ourselves of the right attitude in which to proceed, we will see that the making of direct amends divides those we should approach into several classes.
7.
... amends from
the day we join Alcoholics ...
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
8.
... amends quickly
if we have harmed anyone.
BB p.84,
Into Action
9.
... amends still
neglected.
12&12 p.94,
Step Ten
Here we need only recognize that we did act or
think badly, try to visualize how we might
have done better, and resolve with God's help to carry these lessons over into tomorrow, making, of course, any amends still neglected.
10.
... amends that
we don't care what happens ...
12&12 p.86,
Step Nine
Are we going to be so rigidly righteous about
making amends that we don't
care what happens to the family and home?
11.
... amends to
such people wherever possible, except ...
12&12 p.83,
Step Nine
"Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others."
12.
... amends to
such people wherever possible, except ...
BB p.59,
How It Works
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do
so would injure them or others.
13.
... amends to
them all."
12&12 p.77,
Step Eight
14.
... amends to
them all.
BB p.59,
How It Works
15.
... amends to
those concerned, except when it ...
12&12 p.108,
Step Twelve
We followed this up in Step Nine by making direct amends to those concerned, except when it
would injure them or other
people.
16.
... amends to
those we had harmed, or ...
12&12 p.32,
Step Two
In no deep or meaningful sense had we ever taken stock of ourselves, made amends to those we had harmed, or freely given to any other human being without any demand for reward.
17.
... amends, we
may enjoy such a sense ...
12&12 p.85,
Step Nine
After taking this preliminary trial at making amends, we may enjoy such a sense of relief that we conclude our task is finished.
18.
... amends where
we have done harm, provided ...
BB p.69,
How It Works
We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing.
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